When it comes to dating someone with a kid(s) it can feel a lot like it will be a massive commitment. Not to say that dating without external factors is not already a commitment. But, dating a person and their kid(s) is an even bigger commitment as you commit to the whole package and whatever comes with them and the millions of balls you will have to juggle compared with regular dating.
1. When you're dating someone with a kid(s), trying to fit romance in around their schedule can cause increased stress and drama, due to the "kid(s) come first" thing which can create resentment at times. You will need to make room not just for your partner's schedule, but their kids' schedule(s) and this can be a major deterrent for anyone who is single to have to come to terms with.
2. Dating someone with a kid(s), will mean taking your time to build the relationship where you go at a pace that allows you to learn more about yourself, your partner, the family dynamics and what you both want from life, to help you identify if the relationship is a good fit for you all. If it is, you should try to go slow and steady where the kid(s) are involved to develop boundaries and to structure the relationship in a healthy way. Children can sense insincerity, so you both need to be sure you both want the relationship to work.
3. Once you choose to proceed with the relationship you will not only be trying to win over your partner, you will also be trying to win over their kid(s). There may even be situations when you might feel like you should have the ex's blessing since you're going to be involved in their Kid's life, so, ideally it would be good practice to create a relationship with them where they feel included.
Whether you love kids or can't stand them, whether you're already a parent or you're childfree, dating someone with a kid(s) is hard and needs 110% commitment if you are in it for the long run, because dating someone with kids is intense, you should consider carefully what you are getting into before getting serious about the person and their kid(s). Remember you are not just dating; you are committing.
Overall, dating someone with kid(s) can be a great experience and you can form a very fulfilling relationship. It is important to be aware of the challenges it might pose, however with great communication and understanding, it can be right.
If you or someone you know is having issues adjusting to a relationship where child(ren) are involved, please contact us at smiles@coffeemorninglaughter.com and a member of our team will be happy to speak with you or point you in the right direction to speak with a professional. .
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