Dating is not easy, especially when you get into an unexpected relationship that looks like “it just happened” but let's face it, when it's fresh, we sometimes tend to look at our partner and the relationship itself through a pair of proverbial rose-colored glasses and any red flags are all too easily written off. These flaws can turn to years of being in an unhealthy relationship that is detrimental to our mental health.
And until you get real about your relationship and see it for what it actually is you can face some challenging issues that are just too serious to overlook. Below we discuss the components for your well being that need to be considered cause for concern in any relationship.
In health and social care PIES is Psychologically informed environments (PIEs) which are conscious of the mental health needs of the people that inhabit them. In unhealthy relationship environments there is an awareness of the mental health problems you can suffer from, and how being in this environment may affect their mental health positively or negatively.
Physical- Having great physical chemistry is fundamental to a healthy relationship. In unhealthy relationships it's proven that higher rates of anxiety, depression and low self-esteem are exhibited if your partner is not attracted to you physically and you know it. If your relationship is making you sad and unable to eat a balanced diet, get proper sleep or start substance abuse the relationship is affecting your physical health and mental wellbeing, you should seek help.
Intellectually - In an Intellectually compatible relationship you are mentally stimulated by each other's conversations and can indulge in deep meaningful discussions that become mutually interesting for the two of you. Being able to have shared values and expectations for the future are two very basic things you and your partner need to see eye-to-eye on.
Emotionally - A strong healthy relationship is founded on empathy, trust and cooperation. In emotionally healthy relationships, people respond rather than react. They don't lose sight of their greater goal: a loving, caring, respectful relationship with each other. Ask yourself is this relationship meeting your emotional needs? Are you emotionally connected? Does your partner give empathy? Are you able to express yourself? Are you emotionally independent of your partner?
Socially - If your relationship is causing you social isolation and poor relationships with others this can be a risk factor for mental health conditions like depression and anxiety. Having a healthy relationship is having good, open, and regular communication not only with your partner but with others. Ask yourself, is this relationship allowing you to have relationships with others? Are you able to socialise with friends and family?
Spiritually - When you are in a relationship affecting your spiritual beliefs you need to consider if you want to be in it, especially if you do not share the same spiritual awareness. If you feel drained by your partner's energy, become frustrated to the point you can no longer ignore it means your spiritual energies are no longer aligned, you need to communicate this. Entertaining superficial relationships becomes uncomfortable and will impair your spiritual being.
The different types of relationships we have in their lives affect how we grow and develop in either a positive or negative impact. Because we are influenced by family, friends, colleagues and the intimate relationships we experience we have to be observant to our all relationships and review how they affect our environment. We should all use the PIEs environment to evaluate and understand questionable relationships we may find ourselves in and use the system to empower our emotional, physical well being to create safe spaces where we can take responsibility for our lives for optimal emotional health, high self esteem and to feel good about ourselves in different aspects, having confidence in the decisions we make.
If you would like to speak to someone about any relationship issues or advice check out the NHS website